I’ve been working hard to keep my spirits up during trying times, as we all are. One highlight has been rediscovering my backyard as a lovely backdrop for intimate, socially-distanced gatherings. A few tasteful floral arrangements, time spent pressing table linens and some AV upgrades resulted in a spectacular socially-distanced evening under the stars; viewing this year’s Virtual Opera in the Park with a few close friends.
Typically we might think of something done on this scale as over the top for a simple backyard gathering of family and a couple of close friends. The opera is always a great inspiration for something more elegant, but so is being relatively isolated for months on end. When we can’t attend events that we typically enjoy, we need to find a way to create those for ourselves. If for no other reason, just to preserve some sense of connection to the world that existed prior to these challenging times – some semblance of which we hope will return.
We can also transform our outdoor spaces for remembering those we have lost during this pandemic. I lost my dear pug Stanley in April and we created a similar backyard venue to celebrate his life. Folks everywhere have had to rethink the typical ways we remember our lost loved ones during this pandemic. I speak from experience in finding that, on any scale, the necessary additional effort we put into these kinds of deeply personal events can bring us closer to the same spirit that carried our loved ones to peace. That spirit can also bring us peace and calm while we’re still here.
Whether it’s in joy or sadness, we can find a unique wholeness in going beyond the typical while we stay safe. Try some candlelight at your next dinner. Spread out some fluffy pillows on a blanket in the backyard and sprawl for the afternoon. Make a playlist of music that inspires you and play it for yourself when you’re down – or make one inspired by someone you love. Get out the good dishes and the glassware and create a beautiful table for your next meal – even if you’re by yourself. Make a bouquet or order one for yourself to enjoy. Send one to someone you love. Read romantic poetry and pretend it was written for you or read it to the one you love – even if that person isn’t here. Stop saving those wonderful sensations for later – it’s doing you no good right now. Do it…
Now.
Be Well!
Sara L. Hinkel, M.S.Ed. 